The first big milestone and change in a child’s school journey happens when they leave Year 6 and primary school behind to move to secondary school. It marks a period of social, emotional and academic change that affects every area of your teen’s life. Transitioning from primary school can be both exciting and overwhelming for young people, and as parents and carers, your guidance can make a world of difference.

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Understanding developmental changes

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The transition to high school coincides with a crucial and tumultuous stage of development. In the beginning of puberty, typically between the ages of 11 and 13, they’re just beginning to experience big hormonal changes and rapid cognitive, social and emotional growth. They begin forming stronger personal identities, seeking more independence while still requiring guidance and support. Emotionally, they might be particularly sensitive to peer relationships and social dynamics. Understanding these changes can help parents and carers provide the right balance of structure, encouragement, and reassurance.Cognitive growth: Children begin to develop abstract thinking, problem-solving, and the ability to reflect on their own learning. They also become more capable of planning and setting goals, although executive functioning is still emerging.Social shifts: Peer relationships become increasingly influential. Friendships deepen, and peer acceptance becomes a strong motivator. Children may become more self-conscious or sensitive to how others perceive them.Emotional regulation: Emotional ups and downs are common as hormonal changes accelerate. Children may experience heightened anxiety, frustration, or mood swings, especially in response to new challenges.Identity formation: Young adolescents begin exploring their personal values, interests, and sense of self. They may question authority more often and seek greater autonomy from parents and teachers.

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Establish a good routine

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A predictable routine helps children feel secure in their new environment. Set consistent bedtimes, morning routines, and homework schedules (not too late in the evening when energy and concentration is low) to create stability. Downtime routines such as family dinners, weekend walks to foster connection and reflection are also important. If your child is taking public transport for the first time, practise the route with them to boost their confidence.